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Parenting is a very demanding job!! Its full of uncertainty, requires a lot of attention, time, energy, patience and whole lot of trial and error … because lets’s face it, these little people can be a handful. When you have a seizure disorder and your a mom of two (2) boys there’s never a dull moment. It adds an extra level of anxiety and stress that you may not have otherwise experienced. Our oldest son Khristian is ten (10) years old and our youngest son Ayden just turned one (1) years old November 18th. Since there is such a significant difference in their ages, I am often being pulled in two different directions at once.
Currently, our oldest Khristian is gearing up for Junior High school next year. So there are the every day worries of attending open houses, making sure he attends tutoring, frequent trips to Barnes and Nobles so he explore different genres of books and expand his vocabulary, checking homework and filling out applications. He needs us to consistently stay on top of him and follow up with his homework because like most kids his age he gets lazy and tries to get out doing his work.
Ayden on the other-hand, is an infant and require much much more attention than my oldest. He’s walking a bit more these days so he wants to explore the entire house. However, that mean I have to be 10 steps ahead of him at all times. He puts EVERYTHING in his mouth so safety proofing has been on my To-Do list’s top 10 things to get done. He’s an active and playful baby so he’s such a busy busy bee.
Although I’m a veteran parent, having two (2) children changes things drastically. Implementing ways to overcome and cope with epilepsy’s challenges is not easy, by any means. So the following strategies have helped me create a loving and nurturing environment for my children despite the challenges I experience with my seizure disorder.
1: Create a Support Team:
- There is an African Proverb that states, “It takes a village to raise a child.” I totally believe this!! You can’t possibly raise a child, let alone multiple children on your own. It’s difficult. Why would you want to?! Create an network of people who you can rely on to assist you with some of the day to day tasks of being a mommy (or a daddy for the men reading) Close friends and family understand the challenges you face with your seizures. So I’m sure they will be more than willing to lend a helping hand.
2: Plan & Prioritize:
- This is KEY!! I can’t make a move without my planner. I am often trying to get A MILLION things done in one (1) day. I have learned that is a trying task and I’m usually exhausted by the end of each day. So I choose up to 5 additional things (aside from the everyday tasks of being a wife, mom and a teacher) to complete. I prioritize the tasks in level importance then check each off as I complete each one.
3: Make Time to Rest
- Now this is IMPORTANT!!! Like most people who have Epilepsy or Seizure Disorders fatigue and lack of sleep are triggers. Making sure you get a enough rest has to be as important as brushing your teeth and eating. I know, I know … your probably thinking that you have no time to sleep because you have to cook, clean, do laundry, check homework etc. But let’s be honest you have to rest in order for you to have enough strength to do all of those things. Try your best to get at least 8 hrs a day so you don’t run the risk of having a seizure.
4: Find Time for Yourself
- YOU are just as important as the people you take care of. If we don’t start taking care of ourselves with the same love and intent you do with others we will burn out. It’s so much easier say this than to actually do it because I still find myself struggling with this as well. Around January of this year, I created a schedule of days per week I need to be away from my family to have some ME TIME. During this time I would treat myself out to eat or buying myself something I wanted or maybe even needed. It became an opportunity to relax, reflect and rejuvenate.
These strategies can limit the unwanted effects Epilepsy/ Seizure Disorders has on you and your family and can even be the result of many benefits.
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